Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Do you care?

What happens when after giving your best to a relationship you hardly get back anything out of it? Sometimes bits…Sometimes even less…

What should be your next step?
•Should you let it go as it is?
•Should you look for other options?
•Should you give up?

Well, do not look for an answer out here because I myself have no idea about it and I would welcome any reasoning through comments. But one thing is for sure that the world is in dearth of sensitive people nowadays.

Life has changed. So have we…Everyday there is a new challenge and a new adventure. We are competitive and love facing life as it comes. However do you stop for a moment to think how many people you have hurt today through your words, action or deeds? If you have then you might find this post interesting.

Sometimes I wish things were a bit different. The percentage of sensitive people was a bit more and one really understood the meaning of it all. We look out for fun, food, dance, masti and what not but at the end of the day out of the hundreds you roam with have you ever thought who will be the one listening to all the crap you have to say. The one who will say ‘yes you can’ when you know you can’t…the one who will confidently say ‘yes I’m there for you no matter what’…If you have not yet considered then give it a thought.

There are a lot of things in life THAT MATTER no matter how smartly we say ‘I care a damn’. The problem is we often fail to realize that small things in life have the same importance like that of the bigger ones. It is not always about the film you last watched together or the grand party you attended but the last call you made just to say-‘Don’t worry I’m ok’ can be far more touching and close to your heart.

Human mind is complicated and desires for more. I agree. But the minimal sense of responsibility and sensitivity can never be taught. If you know that you care you are bound to be responsible. Excuses work to a certain extent but not always. If you expect that every time someone will come up and point out that you should have done this, you could have said that…that won’t last for long. The end result…you may lose out on the person who really cared!!! The realization may not be instant. Things may not even make a difference to you just at that point. But the day you realize, it may be too late!

Life is not just about making or having a relationship…it may be any like those with your Family, lover, friends or acquaintances…it’s about living it well and maintaining it with love and care. Do not leave a space to ‘say sorry’ but create spaces to say ‘I love you’. Trust me you will feel the difference!!!

8 comments:

Weird and the Bold said...

Well, when we say "I care a dam", it is because we look for a temporary respite from certain complications. It happens with me at least. I think I will give up on the person but cannot do so. No matter how much you try, severing ties is not that easy- be it your family, lover or friends. Yes, we learn to accept things because we do not have options. But that does not mean, we are happy. Most of the times life gives me an option that echoes "You have no option"....But I smile it away and do away with it to move on. The more you look back, you trip. So what's the point in getting hurt? Why shud we? Are we born for dat? Lets find out better things in life than complaining and wondering why....I have learnt to give space to everyone around me...let them do what their heart says and I shall not coax anyone....But the same goes for me as well...those sentimental dramas are over as of now for me....I am on for a good life.

biddu09 said...

Well.. i know where this blog came from!!! from the green zone of J.U.. & you know that i also share the same thoughts.Seriously people nowadays seem to have lost the minimum level of sensitivity, leave alone responsibility. There are days when we plan to hang out,friends say."i'll confirm within 5 mins" But that 5 mins turns out to be an endless wait & then we realize how relevant the song " Khokhon tomar asbe telephone" is. Our so called friends don't even bother to inform that they won't be able to make it. So now the question is what's the solution!!! Well, I guess you have the answer.. narrowing down your circle!!! But nowadays I've become a far more optimistic person.. thanks to a person who I know will be there for me through thick & thin... so i guess everything is not lost in life.. just believe & remember that your happiness means a lot to many people in this world. So, cheer up.. beta!!! but anyways your blog was AWESOME!!!!

raikishori said...

I completely agree to the last part... At times our ego comes between "sorry" and "I love you".... Once a person told me that at times it becomes important to show your love. It makes the other person realize his importance in your life.... And that realization can altogether give a new meaning to your life....
Nabanita i just luv reading your posts and it makes me feel the existence of sensitive people like u.....
Sensitivity is what people lack now a days.....

eyes and heart merge to speak said...

However much we try n move on, there's something that pulls us behind....something beyond which we want to think but can't. I wish if only heart and mind had the same views...den life wud have been far better....But, nevertheless...mad lovers like us are bound to come across such situations....and the tragic part is the more we think the more we fall in love....and that person doesn't even get to know or see the tiny tear at the corner of our eyes every time he/she leaves after some moments of joy....giving us few more reasons to think, feel,cry and then again slide back to our work!!!!!!!

ANUSHRI said...

I dnt know but i cant help but agree on the fact that life lacks sensitive ppl. With the unroll of tym, it is takin a toll on those sensitive arnd us and probably on me too.

Indrajit / Horus said...

Very true that the no. of sensetive people are dwindling, and I thank god for that - blessed are those who are less sensetive - hence suffer less too! I guess its natures way of promoting insensitivity. I really wish I was much less sensetive - or I could find the delete button of memory! Decade of hurt and pain failed to thicken the skin, so I keep opening the heart and keep getting hurt.. but thats the only way of living I learnt.. So :D

ETERNITY said...

My dear frnd,people are less sensitive now a days because the more sensitive you are,the more pain you gain!trust me,I have many experiences.now the question is should You or I be less sensitive?No!why not?because sensitive people make this selfish world worth living.You may get hurt for being sensitive but that's the rule!who brings joy to others,always carry the burden of their sadness/ignorance.Think about Moses!Who told him to be sensitive for the Isralites?God did!or should I say his inner voice said him to help them.Actually being sensitive differentiates you from a robot!Thats why we feel a silent pain in our heart when we hear someone we love is in trouble!Even the healthiest but sensitive person feels that pain!Heart is not just a machine!Science still does not know why we cry for others!or what is purpose of emotions!its like air!all the pumping of blood heart does but mind gives the oxygen.Be sensitive,always...because a sensitive mind can bring a ray of joy even to those who lost everything...

Sourav said...

Life has it's own weird way of teaching lessons in life! Whatever happens is for good though! Yes, I have learnt that the hard way too! :)

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